A lot of my students face problems of low self confidence and they want to know as to how to increase self confidence. In this post I discuss the subject.
Understanding Self Confidence
Self confidence can be understood as comprising of two facets of our personality. First is our sense of self efficacy. This means that we see ourselves capable of mastering skills and achieving goals in a specific field. We believe that if we learn and work hard in a field we will succeed. This type of confidence leads people to accept difficult challenges, and persist in the face of setbacks. Example: A child who likes Math and can easily solve his class Math problems will accept the challenge of solving Math problems of greater difficulty of a higher class. He may not succeed immediately, but will succeed ultimately!
The second facet is the idea of self esteem. It implies a more general sense that we can cope with what is going on in our lives. We consider ourselves competent at what we do and have a sense that we can do things if we focus on them. Example: Farhan Akhtar had the belief that he could play the role of Milkha Singh in the famous movie. He believed that he could look and act like him. He did a great job. The most important part was his self opinion (confidence).
Is it Possible to Enhance Self Confidence?
Popular belief is that it is possible to enhance self-confidence by external affirmations and positive thinking. There is some truth in this. It is most important to increase self confidence by setting and achieving goals – thereby building competence. Without this underlying competence, we do not enhance self-confidence, but shallow over-confidence, which brings upsets and failures in life.
Bad news for the modern society and in accordance with my Guru, Stephen Covey’s philosophy is: “There is no short cut, or quick fix solution!”
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About The Author: Colonel MM Nehru, is an ex-army officer and is currently settled in Merrut (India). He is a Personality Development Consultant, during his service he was a Selector for Defence Services at 17 SSB, Bangalore. He was also responsible for the Counter Insurgency Operations training of the entire troops deployed in Assam (approximately: 50,000 troops). He was an Instructor at the prestigious NDA(National Defense Academy) from 1988-91. He has Trained Services/ national/international level boxers, athletes. He has personally played Tennis at national level & still competes in veterans’ events.